It’s not your job :

• Be responsible for other people happiness
• Ignoreorlower your boundaries to please others
• Try to correct other peoples’ problems
• Be physically and emotionally available
• Belittle yourself to appease people that don’t like who you are…

People who feel guilt often prioritize other peoples’ need and wishes against their own. We may feel that it is selfish to take care of ourselves, but self-care is essential for the mental and physical well-being. It allows us to recharge, take a step back and breathe.

Food for thought:
Acknowledge that your wishes are equally important to those of others. Don’t place yourself lower than anybody else.

Don’t neglect or sacrifice your health for others. When needed, spend some time on yourselves to regain energy.

Be polite and kind to yourselves. The changes you make to get over the guilt may raise self-criticism. Remind yourselves that it is oaky to feel like this.

Set some boundaries and stick to them. When we feel responsible about another person, our boundaries can be distorted, creating an unhealthy bond between us.
Learn to say no, while remaining sensitive to other peoples’ feelings.
Learn to stand your ground calmly but firmly.